Hello? Is it me you’re looking for?February 7, 2012 at 2:49 pm | Posted in relationships | Leave a comment
Tags: Eva Wiseman, google, Guardian Soulmates, love, men, observer magazine, Online dating, relationships, The Powerbook
Recently, I entered the world of online dating. It didn’t work out amazingly, but the gentleman and I have remained on good terms. I didn’t join Guardian Soulmates to find a friend, but I’m glad I found this one.
The excellent columnist Eva Wiseman wrote about the end of relationships in our brave new digital age in the Observer Magazine last Sunday. I thought she made a very interesting point in saying that we can no longer disappear when we are dumped or dump another: there is always the temptation to Google his or her name, or to request him or her as a Facebook friend, or follow him or her on Twitter. In this increasingly digitalised age, we have to be more strict with ourselves: we have to make the choice not to use the internet as the virtual equivalent of walking past an ex’s house or sending him or her a letter.
What I found most bizarre was the website where you sell the presents your ex gave you. Can you really not bear to be reminded of them that much? Could you not have just thrown them away? I shan’t be putting my wedding dress, red bracelet or leopard print stilettos on there anytime soon.
Speaking of online relationships, you must read The Powerbook. It offers a fascinating glimpse into them, as does the beginning of Ben Brooks’ novel Grow Up.